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Tucci remembers his late wife, Kathryn Spath, who died of cancer in 2009. The couple bonded over food, and Tucci admits that Kate embraced his family’s culinary legacy: “I introduced my family’s recipes into our daily fare and eventually […] Kate usually ended up making them better than I did. Some of them much better” (92). He cites a particular example of Kate making his mother cry after reproducing her lasagna to perfection.
His former in-laws were another matter, people who were not necessarily interested in or adventuresome about food. He notes that “Kate and I would do the cooking” when visiting her family “because we knew what our kids would and wouldn’t eat, cooking made us happy, and being cooked for made my in-laws happy” (94). However, there was one exception: his father-in-law’s penchant for cooking Maine lobster simply but deliciously. Tucci gives him full credit for “direct[ing] his energies into perfecting it” (97), his one signature dish.
Tucci details his family’s Christmas traditions, then and now. In his childhood, his mother would prepare the traditional Feast of the Seven Fishes on Christmas Eve, a part of their Catholic heritage. He lists a typical menu, detailed and luxurious but simple at the same time. He elaborates on zeppole, deep-fried “rings or balls of dough made from mashed-up potatoes and wheat flour” (101). He talks about his own experiments with making zeppole and how he created something entirely new out of initial failure. Another favorite is baccala, a spread made from dried and salted cod, eaten worldwide but now threatened by overfishing.
After he becomes an adult, Tucci himself often hosts the Christmas Eve feast, making a stew with seven types of seafood rather than the elaborate multicourse buffets his Mom produced. Now that he lives in England with his second wife, Felicity, Tucci is surprised at how different the food traditions are—not only from his own family’s traditions but also from what he envisioned as a stereotypical English holiday.
Christmas Day brings has its own traditions. Tucci remembers the children waking up too early to unwrap presents and the always thwarted promise of an afternoon nap. This prospect was interrupted, much to the chagrin of his wife, by the preparation of the timpano. Anyone who has seen Tucci’s cult classic, Big Night, will remember that the timpano is the “centerpiece of the film’s climactic meal” (109). They will also remember that its preparation is elaborate and daunting, to say the least. Thus, Tucci’s actual holiday feasts are interrupted by the making of the timpano—for which he provides a recipe (five pages long), should any reader be bold enough to tackle it—which, despite its heaviness, is only a prelude to a larger meal. After dinner and digestives, the family usually plays the “Ring Game,” wherein someone hides a ring along with a piece of string; much lying and cheating takes place, with encouragement: “It is a cruel but brilliantly funny game, and as soon as you understand that cheating is not only necessary but fair, as it sometimes is in life, you will enjoy it” (118). He ends the chapter by confessing that, though he had hopes that his new wife, Felicity, would enjoy the drama of the timpano, she does not. It is truly more trouble than worth, yet it persists as a family tradition. He also passes along a recipe for “A Christmas Cocktail,” wishing the reader “a happier holiday” (120).
Tucci talks about the influence television and film had on his life, not least that their appeal propelled him into his nearly 40-year-long career. In particular, he mentions the fact that he liked cooking shows growing up, as did his mother. He talks at length about two of his favorite on-air personalities, Julia Child and Keith Floyd.
Child, of course, was a giant in the industry; her The French Chef revolutionized cooking in America and introduced the notion of cooking shows to generations of audiences, as Tucci notes. He also was granted the opportunity to play Paul Child, Julia’s husband, in the film adaptation of Julie & Julia, opposite Meryl Streep. He counts it among his most enjoyable working experiences, along with The Devil Wears Prada, winkingly suggesting that his collaboration with Streep made such work so gratifying.
Keith Floyd is a less familiar figure, a British television personality who traveled to various regions and countries to experience the cultures and cook the food. Tucci notes that the style was fairly rudimentary but impressive in its own way, using uninterrupted shots and unscripted patter: “But his energy, excitement, and profound knowledge about what he’s doing, along with some impressive hand-held camerawork, makes for an incredibly dynamic and entertaining cooking show” (127).
Tucci then analyzes the relative success of contemporary cooking shows and rails against their formulaic (and counterfeit) expressions of delight in their own cooking. He then segues into his own experience with this kind of television, the creation of his CNN show, Searching for Italy. In this series, he explores different regions of Italy, delving into their cultures and culinary expressions. He selects three recipes—one each from the north, the middle, and the south of the country—to illustrate “the wonderful diversity of the Italian table” (131). Pizzoccheri pasta from the Alps represents the humble country cooking that dominates much of Italian cooking. He recounts being asked to prepare the dish—in front of the cameras—for the family patriarch of a Lombardy family. He acts his way to success.
He chooses Carbonara—the combination of guanciale (cured pork cheek), eggs, and real parmesan cheese—to represent the cooking of Rome, in the middle of the country, and waxes profane on the glories of this dish at the restaurant Pommidoro. He argues that “it is the quality of the ingredients that makes the dish greater than the sum of its parts” (139) and eschews the substitution of pancetta for the more authentic guanciale. For his southern dish, he chooses spaghetti alla bottarga, which is dried fish roe, a simple yet incredibly satisfying preparation.
Tucci elaborates on the writing and making of Big Night, his movie about two brothers trying to save their Italian restaurant, with two very different philosophical visions. He wanted to write an American movie that had the feel of a foreign film, with an undetermined ending and close attention to characters rather than plot. Some of the experiences portrayed in the film derived from his time working at an old-style Italian restaurant, Alfredo’s. He also relays how he learned to make a frittata from chef Gianni Scappin so that he could make one onscreen for the film “in one continuous take” (152). A recipe for the simple dish is provided, as well. He ends the chapter by talking about another film he made for the same production company that worked on Big Night. He was treated to another simple but stunning dish from a friend: pasta con aglio e olio, or pasta with garlic and oil.
The entire chapter discusses the realities of catering on movie sets: “Eating catered food on movie sets is often a terrifying prospect,” he begins (159). Still, Tucci focuses on the exceptions rather than the rule and details some of the most pleasant and interesting of his on-set experiences.
In the United Kingdom, Tucci appreciates the hearty English breakfast that one often finds on location, along with the omnipresent “‘tea table’” (162). He notes that, ironically, catering on sets in Italy is often terrible—because most actors and crew members will know of a decent restaurant in the area. Tucci allows that “[t]he only thing that makes Italian set catering bearable is that wine is always served” (163). In Germany, the quantity of quality food was amazing: “Someone please employ me there again” (165). In France, the service was as civilized as if the cast and crew were at a four-star restaurant. In Iceland, Tucci learns never to let stereotypical assumptions influence one’s expectations. Here, he tastes a stew so delicious that he has yet to find its equal: “To this day it remains the best catered meal I have eaten on any film set from the South Pole to the Arctic Circle and all points in between” (172). He also tries whale and puffin, the former being tasty enough to assuage his guilt.
Tucci is again nostalgic, broaching the subject of his late wife and their time together—albeit in his characteristically upbeat manner. Holiday traditions, too, are inherently nostalgic, of course, and his discourse on Christmas and family reminds the reader of the wistful passing of time: “I cannot help but miss the winters of my childhood,” Tucci writes, and “to this day I still attempt to re-create” the Christmases of his youth (99). This narrative coincides with another related trope, that of the authenticity in simplicity, of the joys that can be found in simple but meaningful experiences—mainly through the preparation and consumption of food. This is why, for example, he lovingly recalls the simple preparations of his former father-in-law’s Maine lobster: “Salt and butter. Butter and salt. Those two condiments elevated the flavors of an ancient plant and a prehistoric aquatic decapod to create a staggeringly delicious experience for us all” (97). All of these ideas converge—simple food brings people together to create authentic experiences and lasting memories—into an ideal of integrity and human connection made possible through cooking and celebration.
Later, when devouring a plate of spaghetti alla bottarga at a restaurant in Sicily, Tucci exclaims, in emphatically short paragraphs, “Good God. Simple. So simple. Yet, sensorially stunning. And for me, very comforting” (143). Simplicity is conflated with comfort and elevated by a few ingredients, chosen well. He confirms this again when discussing the pasta con aglio e olio prepared by a friend in Rome. The dish is superlative not only because it was “cooked and shared with my dear friend” but also “because it was the perfect balance of five simple ingredients” (156). The collision of fellowship and food, simplicity and balance, quality and integrity create a meaningful experience. As Tucci elaborates, “I find this culinary equilibrium is realized with the most humble ingredients time and time again in the Italian kitchen” (156). This privileges, as one expects in a memoir, his cultural background and personal experience.
In contrast to his understanding of Italian traditions, he encounters the reality of England after indulging in his “Hollywood version of Jolly Old England” (107). Instead of bustling streets bedecked with genteel mounds of glistening snow, he finds incessant rain and disappointed children. He daydreams about an English Christmas “in days of old. I imagine donning my frock coat and top hat, wrapping my long woolen scarf about my neck, bidding farewell to my in-laws, and strolling home with my family through snowy streets lined with Georgian homes” (107). There is a reference to the Cratchits and Tiny Tim from Charles Dickens’s classic tale, A Christmas Carol. The stereotype is shattered by the reality, but it serves a symbolic purpose in the book: food and film are inextricably linked in Tucci’s world.
This tale segues into his own family’s Christmas tradition, the making of the timpano, which he used in his film on food and family, Big Night. The resonances are readily apparent: a show-stopping dish that is, ultimately, a disappointment—just as the real-life preparation of timpano “can cause issues both culinary and marital” (116). His tongue-in-cheek depiction (laced with profanity) of how both of his wives despise this massive undertaking reflects and informs his account of how difficult it is to make a movie. Making Big Night is the movie equivalent of a Christmas timpano.
He further explores this resonance when he writes about cooking and travel shows, the ones that influenced him and the ones he has made (and is still making as of 2022). The consumption of food goes hand-in-hand with the consumption of entertainment, which complicates the notions of simplicity and authenticity. On the one hand, cooking shows are clearly created for entertainment, compromising their authenticity. On the other hand, there are ways in which authenticity can be telegraphed through these television shows. Tucci excoriates contemporary cooking shows for mimicking enjoyment—and not very well: “There is no possible way that you are actually tasting whatever you ate that quickly and that whatever the hell you made is actually that extraordinary” (129). In contrast, he argues, tasting something triggers a reaction throughout the entire body, a full sensual experience: “Watch Julia Child taste something and you’ll see what I mean” (130). His employment of Child as an example of authenticity also implicitly refers to his mother, the original source of authentic nourishment, both bodily and spiritually. It is with his mother that he watches Child, and he admits that his enjoyment of the show might have as much, or more, to do with his mother than with the show itself: “I do know that watching The French Chef with my mom was a way to spend time with her, because with three kids and a full-time job, she was incredibly busy” (123). The search for simplicity and authenticity coincides with the nostalgia of memory and mom.
Yet, the conflation of cooking and food with mom is complicated by the entertainment value of cooking shows (and of the entertainment and advertising industries, in general) because, as the cliché goes, sex sells. The consumption of food is not merely a wholesome act of celebrating family, but it is also a full-body sensual experience: “When someone really tastes something, whatever process happens in their mouth triggers a reaction in their eyes as well as the rest of their body” (129). Later, he imagines the cheese called Valtellina as “an imagined zaftig wood sprite from a Fellini film,” and after some explicit daydreaming, writes that he’s “[o]ff to take a cold shower” (132), presumably to calm his overexcited senses. When relaying the recipe that calls for Valtellina, he lists the ingredient as a “big, sexy slab” (136). In describing the best pasta carbonara he has ever had, his expletive of choice is one that also refers to sexual intercourse in the profane vernacular (138-40). He also depicts the “climactic dinner scene” in the film Babette’s Feast as that of a metaphorical sexual climax, where “the sounds that emanated from the cinema during [the film] were echoed only in cinemas in the Times Square area that showed films of a different ilk” (146)—winkingly referring to pornographic movies.
Finally, Tucci goes behind the scenes, as it were, and illustrates the many ills of movie catering while choosing a few positive highlights to detail. It is notable that the portrayal of life on a movie set reveals the industry to be mundane, sometimes grueling, and here (as elsewhere in the book), Tucci signals his growing disaffection with his chosen career. The rare sparks of joy are engendered by the culturally specific examples of catering on certain memorable sets: “As each country has its own cuisine, each film caterer in any given country will serve versions of its traditional dishes” (162). Thus, the reader is brought back, full circle, to the concept of authenticity, which inevitably leads to good food and memorable experiences.
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