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Stephanie looks forward to learning the biological sex of her baby. She thinks it will be a good morale boost for her and Emilia. Emilia accompanies her to the ultrasound appointment. Stephanie is struck by the procedural differences of experiencing pregnancy at age 28 compared to age 35; now the staff are much more concerned about things going wrong and do not assume that everything will be routine. She and Emilia are ecstatic to learn that she is having a girl.
Emilia starts seeing a children’s therapist. Stephanie hopes that this will help resolve some of Emilia’s issues and also hopes that this will help Stephanie in court. She learns that she will receive an increased food stamps budget.
Stephanie’s car breaks down, and she decides to buy a new car in Idaho. The new car handles the ice and snow much better than the old one. Emilia’s school has a snow day, so Emilia attends class with Stephanie. Stephanie and Emilia discuss baby names, and Emilia vouches for Coraline after the movie Coraline. Stephanie decides to read the book before she makes a decision about the name.
Stephanie receives the judgment from the child support hearing; the ruling is mostly in Jamie‘s favor. Stephanie decides she will appeal the decision, but she needs someone who can appear on her behalf. She finds a lawyer in Portland who needs a $900 retainer.
Emilia goes to spend spring break with her dad. During the night while Emilia is away, a drunk person tries to get into Stephanie’s house; Stephanie’s roommate leads them away. Stephanie goes to therapy with Emilia and learns that Emilia had taken something from her teacher. Her teacher then went through her pockets looking for it; this strikes Stephanie as particularly inappropriate and invasive.
Stephanie wonders if she should send graduation announcements to her family and is sad that she is not close enough to her family members to send them announcements. She is excited to go to a party of MFA students, where she is surprised to encounter Judy Blunt. Judy sees Stephanie’s pregnant stomach, and Stephanie thinks Judy is judging her. Stephanie is certain that this is the reason she is rejected from the MFA program. She also thinks that her tattoos led to her rejection from the program. Emilia is pleased that Stephanie will not go to grad school since this means she will get to spend more time with her mom.
Stephanie has 13 days before the last day of college and a month and a half before her due date. She is extremely excited to see Emilia be awarded the student of the month. She and Emilia proudly take photos together and go out for pizza and ice cream.
Stephanie goes for a job interview but knows that she will not be hired because she is visibly pregnant. She is disappointed that she does not know how to use her degree and wishes that the practical aspects of “the real world” were taught more in school. She starts posting more of her writing online and nervously prepares for her graduation ceremony. She is very excited for her baby shower. Stephanie attends an event with her friend and wins a $250 gift card for groceries, and she and Emilia are ecstatic. Stephanie and Emilia wear matching dresses to her graduation ceremony. The graduation speaker is the person who started the company Submittable, the portal through which submissions to literary journals are entered.
Stephanie is pleased to find two jobs that she can do while wearing an infant: entering events in community calendars and switching out flyers at the YWCA. She enlists 10 friends to be on the roster of people who could potentially take her to the birth center when she is in labor. Five days before her due date, Sylvie (who has four children) tells her she is unavailable. Stephanie decides this is the end of their friendship. Stephanie’s cousin Jen arrives when it is time and takes her to the birth center, where she learns that she is four centimeters dilated. She gets her membranes stripped, which is incredibly painful. Stephanie hopes that she will get to work with a midwife named Autumn instead of Julie, whom she finds judgmental.
As contractions get worse, Stephanie calls the midwives and the birth center. Stephanie’s water breaks in her friend Michelle’s car. Another friend brings Emilia to the birth center. The contractions speed up, and labor happens very quickly. She has a tub birth. After she births the placenta, she starts to hemorrhage, and the midwives call 911.
Once she is stabilized, she breastfeeds Coraline. Her friends and relatives help her with the baby and with Emilia.
As Stephanie hurdles towards graduation and giving birth, she wonders when she will get a respite from the nonstop cycles of work and worry. The theme of The Challenges of Single Parenthood resonates as everything around her seems to enforce the rapidly approaching deadlines. The neat juxtaposition of childbirth and graduation, two kinds of beginnings that celebrate a new self, offers Stephanie the chance to view her imminent completed degree as a kind of rebirth.
In her senior year of college, Stephanie has confronted the extremely gendered expectations for parenting, witnessing the standard to which mothers are held (by children, doctors, fathers, administrators, bureaucrats) in comparison to fathers. Emilia suffers from not only food and housing insecurity but also severe attachment issues. Her relationship with her father complicates her relationship with her mother, since Jamie often denigrates Stephanie in front of Emilia. Stephanie is powerless when Emilia is in Jamie’s care and enlists a therapist to help Emilia process her experiences: “Emilia had never been to a therapist before, and part of the reason I felt it was so important now was to document what I suspected was emotional abuse that my daughter experienced” (221). Stephanie admits that she is also motivated to “help [her] future self in court proceedings” (221). The challenges of single parenting are exemplified by Stephanie’s need to have official documentation of her daughter’s pain in order to secure a better future for Emilia.
The descriptions of how difficult it is to maintain a social network reinforce the theme of the challenges of single parenting. Stephanie has inconsistent relationships with friends and tends to maintain only the friendships that benefit her, immediately ending them when the person no longer agrees with her or cannot always support her (for instance, she immediately ends her friendship with Kristi after Kristi asks if keeping the pregnancy is the right thing to do, and she ends her friendship with Sylvie after Sylvie, a mother of four, cannot be on the roster for potentially driving her to the birthing center). There are several descriptions of friends taking Emilia for the weekend or friends dropping by to babysit, but Stephanie cannot reciprocate the same favors.
Throughout the memoir, Land suggests her narrator has The Determination to Overcome Personal and Financial Obstacles, even in the face of significant roadblocks and life circumstances and in spite of Societal Attitudes Towards Poverty and Government Assistance. Stephanie does not engage in the typical reflection that many consider requisite to the genre of memoir, and the lack of introspection complicates the reader’s relationship with the text’s sense of veracity. However, this unreliability produces instead a complex depiction of one person’s life spent combatting a socioeconomic system actively working against her. Land’s honesty contributes to the larger picture in her memoir.
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